I’ve been listening to you for a while now and I know you have a lot of things standing in your way.

I know that on any given day or week, there’s a problem with work, there’s a sick kid, there’s an argument with your spouse, you had a shitty night’s sleep, etc. etc. etc.

I hear you.

I know that all of these challenges are valid.

And I know that you know exactly what you need to do to change.

Because you didn’t get this far in your job, in your marriage, in parenting, and in life being completely oblivious to your behavior (blinders from time to time, but you’re not blind…)

There’s sometimes a question of want, and desire, and motivation, and drive to just “do the thing”.

And yes, you do have to want that goal really damn bad.

And yes, you do need to have a burning desire to change.

And yes, motivation helps especially when you’re feeling down, or low in energy, or when you’ve worked more hours than you wanted to work in a week.

And yes, there needs to be a drive to push the pedal forward.

But you know this.

And nothing I’m telling you should surprise you.

But I’ll remind you of this, as your friend, as your coach…I can’t do this work for you.

I can shine a light.

I can give you tools.

I can give you a hug.

I can tell you that you have one more rep in the tank.

I can tell you that you’re getting in your way.

And let’s face it, you are completely in your way.

Because all of these valid problems are the problems that all of us face in varying degrees every day, every week for the rest of our time on this earth.

I’ll discredit nothing that you’re feeling. I know what that discomfort feels like.

But, I’ll tell you…you still have work to do.

I can’t wipe away your depression.

I can’t help you not be anxious.

I can’t remove this virus from our lives.

I can’t eat the food you need to eat (or remove from the plate).

I can’t lift the weight you need to lift to change your body.

I can’t fix your marriage.

I can’t raise your children.

I can’t work your job, unless you want me to get your paycheck.

Which means, you are the driver behind the wheel.

And you get to decide which road you want to take.

I’m here. I’ll be here as long as you need me.

But that work you need to do, that’s on you.

And I’ll be ready, when you’re ready.

That’s a promise.

(Pictured below, my client and friend, Mike B. who’s been putting in the work for nearly 12 years with me).